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Interview with author Goldy Krantz
One year ago, the Queens-raised Goldy Krantz, 30, took stock of her most unusual shidduch dates, putting them in print as The Best of my Worst. Since then, she has become a sought-after speaker at singles events, even while insisting that her views are personal and by no means an indicator of her expertise on the topic. The social worker took time from her dates to sit down with this author for a chat.
Sergey Kadinsky: How do you promote your positive view on dating without putting down the bad dates, those that disappoint?
Goldy Krantz: I don’t feel that people will want to read about misery, this is about experience that people can relate to. I have friends who have been let down by shidduch dating. Hopefully people can laugh because I’m not crying over these experiences.
SK: Suppose a date does not do well, how do you break up with someone without hurting their feelings or leading them on further?
GK: First, I would never text someone, it’s very impersonal. You have to feel the person and not do it in a rude way. Recommend them to a friend, be up front and don’t play with someone’s emotions. End it in a positive way.
SK: I’ve noticed that in your book, you often comment on your dates’ driving, especially if they drive too slow.
GK: Sometimes the girl feels like the guy is in control. He drives, he pays, and if it’s not shayach, how do you end it? You’re at their mercy. Hopefully, it’s not so horrible that you would jump out of the car.
SK: How should the man approach the first date, so that he could make it to second and beyond?
GK: The first couple of dates are to see if you can stand being together. You don’t know whom you are dating. If it’s coffee, it’s fine, just don’t overstay your welcome. Hold a little back so that you will have something to discuss on your second date.
SK: Back to the book. The date you had with Dave of Belle Harbor. The man spent the date tearing into his grandmother who has Alzheimer’s and his “ugly” older sister who is still single. How did you deal with that?
